“So, when are you going to have a baby?” -asks society. I mean sheesh, can you lay off our uteruses already?
30+ year old woman with no kids
Try putting that in your next Tinder profile and watch the assumptions run WILD.
Besides the fact that you’re 30+ on a dating profile, the following will probably also ensue, “Sooo, you’re 30+ with no kids, no husband………there must be something wrong with you……are you crazy? Are you gay? Nah, I bet you’re crazy.”
*insert dramatic eye roll here*
The simple fact is this: it’s hard in these streets for a business-savvy, goal-oriented – not to mention, fierce – millennial woman. Especially when we’re constantly at war with society’s unrealistic expectations of what women should have accomplished by the age of 30. One must be married, barefoot and preggo, etc., blah blah blah. Which in this day in age, feels totally dated, and quite frankly, not ideal for the lady hustler who’s too busy building her empire to focus on starting a family right now. Call it selfish, but at least we’re not out here procreating for the hell of it with no sense of stability. Can we get at least get an amen for that? Sheesh.
I honestly don’t think there’s anything wrong with waiting to start a family, but then again, I’m biased (cause I’m clearly a 30+ year old woman with no plans to pop out a bambino anytime soon). If you agree, then you’re probably a lot like me – just trying extremely hard to get your shit together first. Sounds like the most responsible thing to do right? Hell, I thought so.
No, but seriously, how old is too old to have a baby?
Sooo I know what you guys are thinking: Janet had a baby this year at 50 yrs old, so I can too, right? Eh, I wouldn’t put all my eggs in that basket – no pun intended there by the way. Speaking of eggs though, it’s true that ours decreases in number and quality over time. And check this – some say this decline starts at 35. I really hope not though, because if this is the case, well, I’m screwed.
But all that aside, I simply refuse to crank up the baby factory just because I’m fearful of my declining eggs – or, whatever you call ’em. I want to be in a great position in life, romantically, spiritually and professionally, before introducing a kid into this world – God willing of course. So from here on out, these will be my responses every time someone asks me, “When are you going to have a baby?!”
5 – I’m out here grinding – I don’t have time for kids
I literally almost never have time for myself. Literally. How will I have time for a kid? I haven’t even gotten a puppy yet! And we all know that’s the real trial run, right? No? Oh. Anyway. I’m busy trying to build businesses and book clients and such. I don’t have the time for poopy diapers and baby formula!
4 – I’m too damn selfish
This ain’t nothing but the truth. I’m still in my selfish stage in life, and unapologetically at that! I want to do what I want, when I want, and go where I want, without any limitations. I know this will change dramatically once I have a kid, so why rush?
3 – I can barely take care of myself, much less a baby!
I’m still kind of a kid, tbh. And I have enough trouble keeping myself clean and fed, so I know I’m not ready for a baby!
2 – Umm, I atleast need a potential baby’s father before I can even think about having a baby
Don’t get me wrong, I do have a potential baby daddy, but I want to do it the right way! Meaning, I want to be married and settled before I think about having kids. I know it doesn’t always work out that way, but that’s what I’m aiming for!
1 – I’m just not ready to have kids yet
Point blank and period. I’m. Not. Ready. I need more time!